[Oh... this is getting a little too close for comfort and Waver's grateful that this conversation is occurring through text. Oath brothers and pledging fealty to a king are thankfully... different, though. There's a kindness here that it's the former and not the latter.]
Then a return to form won't work for the both of you.
... I know you can't go through that again. But even the strongest of us falter. Why does he believe weakness deserves death?
[For him, it took ten years after the bridge to get to a point where he could get by his desire to join Iskandar in the afterlife (although he would never join him; not when he'd enter the cycle of reincarnation and Iskandar was interred on the Throne of Heroes). Even then...
Gokudo doesn't precisely discourage the idea. He's severe with what he views as a failing. He came to the clan wanting to know why men would die for me. He wants a higher ideal to live for and fill the absence in his life. Clan doctrine feeds his dream of Sacrifice, hard work, responsibility, utter devotion. But it's meant to be in service to others, not a weapon against yourself. I tried to instill that but I don't know where it went wrong. I was in a coma after taking a bullet before I woke up on that rooftop. I didn't have the chance to ask him why. He's still begging to live for me and not himself now.
... I would say Mine needs to accept the person he is is enough, before even thinking of trying to improve himself, then. That that person has worth and deserves to live. Both to you and the people around him. No matter how flawed he is. That he won't be abandoned or rejected or betrayed.
Otherwise nothing will improve, no matter what is done.
It's probably the most difficult journey a person can take. But if he's going to truly live, he must.
Even among friends, it wasn't something to talk about. It won't shock you that the yakuza are more the type to suffer in silence. It's strange to pull open such an old wound.
I can relate. Some things are just too vulnerable even for the people we care for. Especially them. Not when you have to be the one that doesn't crumble.
[Or for as much as they love you and want to protect you, they'd let things slip to the ones that would hurt you, tear you down.]
Yes. It tells you how much it's really healed. And how much is just... convincing yourself it did. It's always an experience.
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cw; discussion of suicidal ideation
Date: 2021-04-14 05:09 am (UTC)From:Then a return to form won't work for the both of you.
... I know you can't go through that again. But even the strongest of us falter. Why does he believe weakness deserves death?
[For him, it took ten years after the bridge to get to a point where he could get by his desire to join Iskandar in the afterlife (although he would never join him; not when he'd enter the cycle of reincarnation and Iskandar was interred on the Throne of Heroes). Even then...
Mmmm. Far, far too close for comfort...]
cw; discussion of suicidal ideation
Date: 2021-04-14 07:52 am (UTC)From:He's severe with what he views as a failing.
He came to the clan wanting to know why men would die for me.
He wants a higher ideal to live for and fill the absence in his life.
Clan doctrine feeds his dream of
Sacrifice, hard work, responsibility, utter devotion.
But it's meant to be in service to others, not a weapon against yourself.
I tried to instill that but I don't know where it went wrong.
I was in a coma after taking a bullet before I woke up on that rooftop.
I didn't have the chance to ask him why.
He's still begging to live for me and not himself now.
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Date: 2021-04-14 07:38 pm (UTC)From:That is him. Through a mirror, perhaps darkly.
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I think... perhaps, I understand.
... I would say Mine needs to accept the person he is is enough, before even thinking of trying to improve himself, then. That that person has worth and deserves to live. Both to you and the people around him. No matter how flawed he is. That he won't be abandoned or rejected or betrayed.
Otherwise nothing will improve, no matter what is done.
It's probably the most difficult journey a person can take. But if he's going to truly live, he must.
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Date: 2021-04-15 05:40 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2021-04-15 09:51 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2021-04-16 02:31 am (UTC)From:Sorry, if it isn't now. I know it can... be just as hard on the outside.
I appreciate it.
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Date: 2021-04-16 10:50 am (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2021-04-18 06:06 am (UTC)From:It won't shock you that the yakuza are more the type to suffer in silence.
It's strange to pull open such an old wound.
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Date: 2021-04-19 04:42 am (UTC)From:[Or for as much as they love you and want to protect you, they'd let things slip to the ones that would hurt you, tear you down.]
Yes. It tells you how much it's really healed. And how much is just... convincing yourself it did. It's always an experience.
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Date: 2021-04-19 06:37 am (UTC)From:It's not something to wish on anyone.
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Date: 2021-04-21 06:06 am (UTC)From: